Unlike behavioral approaches that use "consequences" or "time-outs," the Neufeld approach views the parent-child relationship as the primary tool for change.
For a child to feel safe, they must be in a "dependent" role, while the parent takes the "alpha" or provider role. Problems like bullying often stem from a "stuck" alpha complex in children who don't feel they can lean on their adults. The Gordon Neufeld Approach: Making Sense of Ch...
The emotional state of being open to hurt. When a child's world is too wounding, their brain may employ "defensive detachment" to shut down vulnerable feelings, which can stall maturation. 2. The Relationship-First Paradigm The Gordon Neufeld Approach: Making Sense of Ch...